Relationship violence comes in many forms, such as verbal, physical, social, psychological, and sexual violence. Among these, emotional blackmail is a common tactic that can appear in various types of relationship abuse.

Emotional blackmail involves using threats, pressure, silence, or sarcasm to make the victim feel negative emotions like fear, insecurity, guilt, or frustration. This manipulation forces the victim to comply with the blackmailer’s demands, either directly or indirectly. When someone is constantly in this high-pressure and unhealthy mental state, it can create a vicious cycle, leading them to avoid expressing their true feelings and developing various emotional problems. People who frequently doubt themselves, feel guilty, rely on others for validation, and fear conflict are particularly vulnerable to being targeted by blackmailers. Emotional blackmail often occurs with people we know well and are close to, such as:

• Family: “If you don’t behave, your mom and I will kick you out!”
• Partner: “If you truly love me, you’ll let me see all your phone messages and call records!”
• Friend: “After knowing each other for so long, can’t you lend me a bit of money?”

Not all blackmailers act with malicious intent; some may simply express their own fears and insecurities. If you encounter emotional blackmail, stay calm and don’t feel pressured to immediately agree to their demands. Instead, arrange a safe environment for a sincere conversation—such as with family and friends present or in a public place—to discuss everyone’s perspectives and the reasons behind the conflict. Find a resolution that works for both parties and, if necessary, seek professional help to end the relationship if it becomes unhealthy. If you identify with the traits of being easily manipulated, consider working on changing these traits, boosting your self-worth and confidence, and reducing the likelihood of becoming a target.